self-awareness

Most of us are not self-aware:

“According to our research” says organizational psychologist and researcher Tasha Eurich, “with thousands of people from all around the world, 95 percent of people believe that they’re self-aware, but only about 10 to 15 percent really are.” 

There is only one approach that I’ve seen really work in my 18 years of coaching and training people to improve their personal leadership through self-awareness: anonymous 360 feedback.

Why Most People Lack Self-Awareness and What to Do About It

Not everyone agrees:

360 degree feedback surveys | SurveyMonkey

The problem with anonymous 360-degree feedback

Are Anonymous Reviews Destructive?

Here's a list:

1. You think you’ve earned all your successes

• Without luck, I wouldn’t have gotten anything.

2. You play the victim card whenever you receive feedback
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3. There’s always drama when you’re with others

• Maybe you should learn how to be a bit more compassionate, or be more kind to others?
• Spend your energy focusing on positivity rather than negativity.

4. You find it hard to say “I don’t know”

• Luckily, self-awareness is a skill that can be improved:
• You can journal for self-awareness
• Self-awareness can be taught
• Here are 4 ways to improve your self-awareness

5. You have a compulsive need to control everything

• stop trying to control

6. You never change your mind about something

• How to keep an open mind

7. You feel the need to talk (all the time)

• "You never really learn much from hearing yourself speak." George Clooney
• the Spotlight Effect. According to the Wikipedia page, it makes people "believe they are being noticed more than they really are".

8. You gossip

• steer the conversation in a more positive direction

9. You focus on short-term happiness too much

• Delayed gratification is the resistance to the temptation of an immediate pleasure in the hope of obtaining a valuable and long-lasting reward in the long-term. Wikipedia
• 8 Secrets Of Self-Discipline (Benefits And Tips)
• 4 Real Ways To Stop Running Away From Your Problems

10. Most of the things you say are negative or criticizing

• Negativity Bias 
• In a study published in the British Medical Journal, scientists have found that happiness can effectively spread through your social ties such as your friends, family, and neighbors.

11. You go out of your way to prove your own right

• Reactance: It’s a common habit in humans to push back against someone who challenges what you do.

11 Signs You Lack Self-Awareness (And How To Recognize)

Here's another list:

15 signs you're more self-aware than you may think

Here's an interview:

A psychologist explains why we’re probably all delusional and how to fix it - The Verge

And finally, a list of a few good habits: 

Here are four habits of highly self-aware people that you can use to become more self-aware yourself.

1. They’re curious about their own mind
2. They take feedback seriously

3. They listen a lot more than they talk.
4. They don’t judge themselves for how they feel

4 Psychological Habits of Highly Self-Aware People | by Nick Wignall | Personal Growth | Medium

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